<?xml version="1.0" encoding="iso-8859-1"?><rss version="1.0"><channel><title>Diary of alakananda s</title><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/</link><description>Diary of alakananda s</description><language>en-us</language><item><title>HOME SWEET HOME</title><description><![CDATA[<P>PEOPLE,</P><P>I AM GOING HOME! AFTER 2 AND A HALF LOOOOOONG YEARS I AM GOING HOME :)) </P><P>I CANNOT WAIT TILL I GET TO MY OWN SWEET PARADISE THIS SIDE OF HEAVEN. </P><P>FOR THE NEXT FEW WEEKS AM GOING TO BE SHUTTLING BETWEEN NAGERCOIL AND TRIVANDRUM.  </P><P>SO LONG AND FAREWELL TILL THEN. CATCH U ALL LATER :))</P>]]></description><pubDate>Wed, 09 Jul 2008 02:44:42 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/09/HOME-SWEET-HOME-1.html</link></item><item><title>Wedding Blues</title><description><![CDATA[<DIV align=justify><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">It was yesterday when realization suddenly struck me. Barely a week to go, there's a wedding in the family and what am I doing, stuck halfway across the world. It sinks in slowly that I will be missing the wedding. Though I knew right from day one when they fixed the date that I would be missing it, I guess I chose to ignore the fact. Veteran escapist that I am, I just pushed the thought away, tucked it into the remotest corner of my mind and refused to let it out. And like all things that you prefer to keep hidden away have the tendency to pop up when you least expect it, this has popped out too. Like my messy kitchen cabinet that one fine day decided it could take no more of my stashaways and burst open right in the middle of a fancy dinner party I threw. <BR><BR>If I just sit back and close my eyes for a moment I could be transported right back home. I can see the utter pandemonium reigning supreme there. I can just hear my bro-in-law yelling at my sis for having forgotten to remind him to invite that cranky old neighbor who fortunately moved to the other end of the country two years ago, while she desperately hunts for that all important telephone directory that contains all the addresses and phone numbers of anybody who is anybody. "I swear ----, that I just left it on the table for a while when I went to answer the door. When I came back it had simply disappeared. It's eerie," she griped to me over the phone. Supernatural forces at work I am sure. <BR><BR>And all the other one million little things that were adding chaos to the utter confusion. If the painter came, the carpenter wouldn't. If both decided to honor the house with their presence they would manage to trample all the newly planted shrubs and plants underfoot. Or the borewell motor that just decided to stop working a week before the wedding. Well, that particular mechanic. he was off to a wedding himself. "Close wedding sir, my wife's third cousin's grandfather's uncle's neighbor sir. How can I not go? How will I face them again?" of course, he had to attend it. <BR><BR>I can hear my brothers arguing about which color would be best as the stage backdrop at the reception or whether the stage should be decorated with just flower bouquets or whether a couple of bonsais need to be thrown in too, for effect; my elder-bro-in-law quietly and efficiently giving instructions for hall-arrangements-public relations etc. he is a miracle worker who can get things done without any of the accompanying turmoil that usually accompanies the other members in the family; my elder sister is probably busy trying to decide the day's menu while my sisters in-law are doubtless trying to keep the early, 'much-too eager- to- help,- but- hindrance- actually-visitors' entertained. My mom's probably happily swapping tales with my bro-in-law's mom. And the kids? My umpteen nephews and nieces? While the guys are probably being chased around on errands, the gals must be sitting around discussing. what else, but what to wear? <BR><BR>Sitting here with my eyes closed I can just imagine them all sitting around the dining table, hear the carefree chatter, the querulous complaints, the hysteric laughter (courtesy my sister - oh, you should hear us three sisters get together, we'd give the three witches of Macbeth a run for their money any day when it comes to cackling), the giggling fits and loud arguments that must be going on. Why I can even smell the jasmine strands they must be tying up, the sambhar bubbling in my sister's kitchen, and the rasavadas they must be having with tea. <BR>. <BR>Over the past few weeks every phone call home has been an update on the wedding scenario. Whether it was the trip to RmKV, Thirunelveli for the 'sari to be given to the bride' or the trip to Balaramapuram for the 'mundum neriyathum', again to be given to the bride, and the groom's 'mundu', or the myriad trips to bhima/alukkas/josco/our family goldsmith for you know whats. Or how exhausted my sis-in-law and sister ended up after having 'invited' 80 houses in a single day! <BR><BR>Right now I know the colors of everyone's sari, both the ones for the wedding at Trivandrum and the reception at Nagercoil, what each person is wearing the day before the wedding and so on and so forth. Right from my sister's 'third- layer- of onion- skin- color' (which she believes is not too flashy and is befitting to the dignified 'mother-in-law' look) to my niece's ripe mango bordered by apple peel a day after its been peeled. (Note to guys who read this: don't even go there. You wouldn't even be able to envision those colors. It's a gal thing. Unfortunately you lack the gene. That's why pumpkin and peach are just fruits to you). <BR><BR>I wonder if they'll rag this couple too, like they did when my eldest nephew got married. Well, things had quietened down and it was time for the bride and groom to retire to their room. All the kids under the able leadership of my husband locked up their room and refused to part with the key unless my nephew shelled out good money. And then started the craziest auction of all. Finally when the price reached Rs.10000 and there still seemed to be no sign of going, going, gone, my nephew decided enough was enough and decided to move on to one of the posh hotels in the city. Even they wouldn't charge that much for a night's stay. And best of all they could have some peace and quiet and 'quality' time away from the jingbang. Anyway, things were settled then for a modest Rs.2500/- and the money was handed over to my husband, him being the oldest among the 'kids'. <BR><BR>Anyway, the tale of that money is not over yet. We decided to give it to my sis for safekeeping until such a date when the whole family had gathered together under one roof. Unfortunately, it's been 7 years and 4 months now and the family has grown bigger by 6 (that particular couple themselves have a couple of kids now) but the day has not yet arrived. Hopefully that will happen sometime soon and when it does, my sis has some serious accounting to do. Seven years worth of interest you see ;). From what I hear, this nephew, the one getting married now is gearing up for all eventualities. With a crazy family like ours, you can never be sure. <BR><BR>And why am I missing the wedding or rather weddings (because a couple of months later, my niece is getting married too). I miss my nephew's because my daughter has exams just then, vacation does not start yet. And my niece? She's getting married a week after my kids' school reopens after summer vacation. Methinks I smell a strong conspiracy. My bro and my sis, along with the numerous planets and stars in their ascents and descents ruling and lording it over their respective houses, have hatched a sinister plot to keep me away. How come they couldn't find a date to accommodate me otherwise? Chechi and chetta dears, you have some serious answering to do. </FONT></DIV><DIV align=justify><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"></FONT> </DIV><DIV align=justify><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">I know we're going to be sorely missed and when you all pose for that big family photo on June 4th, there's going to be a big void that only the four of us can fill and I know what each one of you will be thinking at that moment,-"Wish they were here!"</FONT></DIV>]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 29 May 2008 23:49:46 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/05/29/Wedding-Blues-1.html</link></item><item><title>30 Questions Tag</title><description><![CDATA[<P><A href="http://bvndiaries.blogspot.com/"><STRONG><FONT color=#669922>BVN</FONT></STRONG></A> tagged me on this....<BR><BR>1. LAST MOVIE YOU SAW IN A THEATER:<BR>Katha Parayumbol (I actually teared up at the end. Never thought I'd see the day when Mammootty could do that to me. but come to think of it, I'd rather give credit to Sreenivasan)<BR><BR>2. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING?<BR><BR>'All Quiet on the Western Front' by Erich Maria Remarque for my bookclub. It's a reread, but it did not affect me this way the last time I read it about 15 years back. Guess I am growing old.<BR>Also 'A Swiftly Tilting Planet' by Madeline L'Engle. Part of the Wrinkle in Time Trilogy. It's a kids' book, but don't let that deter you. Beautiful and haunting. i think a grown up would enjoy it more.<BR><BR>3. FAVORITE BOARD GAME?<BR>Good ol' 'Thaayam'. But I need my sisters-in-law to play along to really enjoy it. Without that, hmmm, scrabble or is it monopoly?<BR><BR>4. FAVORITE MAGAZINE?<BR>Come to think of it, I barely read magazines now. There used to be an old humor mag called 'Madhu Muskan' published years ago. Remember it anyone?<BR><BR>5. FAVORITE SMELLS?<BR>There used to be a sprawling 'vaasimottu' in my grandparents' house. Neither the house, nor the tree exists today. But a sapling of it, brought home and planted near our front gate thrives today. It flowers in the evening. And sitting out on the verandah when it's in full bloom. while at Disney's Animal Kingdom last year, I found a plant in full bloom. The fragrance just hit me and for a moment, I was home.<BR>The earth after the first rain.<BR>And then of course am a sucker for that smell of newborns. and the smell of Pears soap. Somehow arouses the maternal instinct in me, which my kids otherwise manage to quell.<BR><BR>6. FAVORITE SOUND?<BR>Rain. as it can only rain back home.<BR>And the sound of the key turning the lock, signaling that my husband is back home.<BR><BR>7. WORST FEELING IN THE WORLD?<BR>Feeling that no one misses you. Imagine calling up home and someone saying, "this vishu everyone was here except 'so and so', with the 'so and so' not being you.<BR><BR>8. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE?<BR>I'm packing the kids off to school and coming right back to bed.<BR><BR>9. FAVORITE FAST FOOD PLACE? Thattukadas (is there a recurring theme running through this tag?) Nikhunjam.There used to be a Downtown in palayam back in the early 90s. too bad it's closed down.<BR>Here, maybe Philly steakhouse (love their gyros)<BR><BR>10. FUTURE CHILD'S NAME?<BR>I think I am done with that. But then hypothetically speaking. Dattatreya and Mrithyunjaya (since we're speaking hypothetically, thought I might as well go for twins. I would love to see my neighbour get her tongue around that one! The kids I hope would appreciate their classical names. Atleast I didn't name them <STRONG><A href="http://alakananda.blogspot.com/2007/06/whats-in-name.html"><FONT color=#669922>like this</FONT></A></STRONG>.)<BR><BR>11. FINISH THIS STATEMENT. "IF I HAD A LOT OF MONEY I'D...? go home. And then maybe a world cruise, stopping enroute to buy that sun-drenched island.<BR><BR>12. DO YOU DRIVE FAST? Nope, irritate my husband by always driving 5 miles <STRONG>BELOW</STRONG> the speed limit. He sticks to the speed limit by the way.<BR><BR>13. DO YOU SLEEP WITH A STUFFED ANIMAL? Nope have a much warmer bed buddy to hug;)<BR><BR>14. STORMS-COOL OR SCARY? Both. Great BMW (you know what I mean and its nothing to do with wheels) combined with #13.<BR><BR>15. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CAR? Maruthi 800. Navy blue.<BR><BR>16. FAVORITE DRINK? My morning cuppa chaya with chukku and elaichi. Then rosemilk and mango lassi.<BR><BR>17. FINISH THIS STATEMENT, "IF I HAD THE TIME I WOULD ..... write that book.(hah! Who am I kidding? I would still do what I do now. Absolutely nothing. )<BR><BR>18. DO YOU EAT THE STEMS ON BROCCOLI? Yes. I run it in the food processor and mix it in with my chappathi atta. That way we all eat broccoli. Even the kids don't complain.<BR><BR>19. IF YOU COULD DYE YOUR HAIR ANY COLOR, WHAT WOULD BE YOUR CHOICE? Some day I want to get a tri-color done, just to freak out my kids.<BR><BR>20. NAME ALL THE DIFFERENT CITIES/TOWNS YOU HAVE LIVED IN. now that's some list. <STRONG>Nagercoil</STRONG> (it's home), <STRONG>Trivandrum</STRONG>(that's second home), <STRONG>Bangalore</STRONG> (my dream, which I desperately hope will not turn into a nightmare), <STRONG>Bensalem-Philadelphia</STRONG>(great place. First in the US), <STRONG>Santa Clara </STRONG>(hated it), <STRONG>Petaluma</STRONG>(nice place but too short a time), <STRONG>Chennai</STRONG>(I hope I never have to live there again), <STRONG>Raleigh</STRONG>(so far so good). Now ,all I want to do is put down roots someplace.<BR><BR>21. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH? Nah.<BR><BR>22. ONE NICE THING ABOUT THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU. <STRONG>BVN</STRONG> :) he has a great sense of humor.<BR><BR>23. WHAT'S UNDER YOUR BED? Fortunately there is absolutely no space to shove anything under my bed. If not. I wouldn't be able to yell at my daughter for hiding away trash under her bed.<BR><BR>24. WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE BORN AS YOURSELF AGAIN? Yes please. Wouldn't trade places for all the sun drenched islands in the world. Maybe just not as lazy.<BR><BR>25. MORNING PERSON, OR NIGHT OWL? Night night night.<BR>"They called me an owl<BR>For I keep the stars company.<BR>And when the world stirs to life,<BR>I turn my back upon it.<BR>And like the wicked vampire<BR>I return at dusk<BR>To suck life out of night."<BR><BR>26. OVER EASY, OR SUNNY SIDE UP? Sunny Side Up. Such a cheerful way to start the day :)<BR><BR>27. FAVORITE PLACE TO RELAX? On a hammock under the palm trees on that sun-drenched island. But until I write that book that will make me all that money that will help me buy that island, I think I'll settle for that old divan at home (as in nagercoil).<BR><BR>28. FAVORITE PIE? Pecan Pie. Love the Apple Pie from Koshy's in Bangalore too.<BR><BR>29. FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR? Rum n' Raisin. but nothing beats the Vanilla at Warren's Nagercoil. That's the only flavor they have.<BR><BR>30. OF ALL THE PEOPLE YOU TAGGED THIS TO, WHO'S MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND FIRST? Don't know. So am not tagging anyone. I hope someone surprises me. Anyone listening?</P><DIV>P.S. : Thank you <A href="http://myownboswell.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/04/28/30-Questions-Tag-Alakananda-sowpar.html" target=_self>Dilip</A>  for taking up the tag . </DIV>]]></description><pubDate>Fri, 25 Apr 2008 23:50:52 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/04/25/30-Questions-Tag-1.html</link></item><item><title>Into the Scheme of Things</title><description><![CDATA[<P><STRONG><U>Into the Scheme of Things </U></STRONG></P><DIV><STRONG></STRONG></DIV><DIV><STRONG></STRONG></DIV>Funny how you make <DIV></DIV>An infinitesimal blob <DIV></DIV>In the middle of nowhere. <DIV></DIV>Like moths drawn to their Fate <DIV></DIV>Drawn to your useless ties. <DIV></DIV>Dancing to the tunes of Maya <DIV></DIV>As she dances to the cosmic drum. <DIV></DIV><DIV></DIV><DIV></DIV>In the mad cavorting of life <DIV></DIV>When you think you had a glimpse <DIV></DIV>Of Eternity in another's eyes <DIV></DIV>Days when sleep eluded you <DIV></DIV>And like the ill-fated monster <DIV></DIV>You "cried to sleep again". <DIV></DIV><DIV></DIV>And through it all, <DIV></DIV>The wonderful, fantastic, misery <DIV></DIV>And the pain of human life; <DIV></DIV>A pain so brutal; <DIV></DIV>A pain so beautiful; a pain that soothes the heart, <DIV></DIV>In this crazy world, <DIV></DIV>Where the dying mourn the dead. ]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:33:50 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/04/08/Into-the-Scheme-of-Things-1.html</link></item><item><title>The Cry</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Days of white heat and pouring rain,</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>When the mountains cry in anguish;</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>You float by, but hear no whimper.</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>When the fury ebbs, the mountains sigh.</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p><FONT face=Calibri> </FONT></o:p></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Deep within, the earth roils;</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Her sweat pours forth </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>A beautiful bloom,</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Borne in the prime of pain.</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><o:p><FONT face=Calibri> </FONT></o:p></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>As furrow by furrow, </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Man hacks through</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>In search of gold,</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Of gold and lust.</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><o:p><FONT face=Calibri> </FONT></o:p></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Lost amidst the days of yore,</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Some atavistic memory</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>Cries out to a prehistoric God,</FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt"><FONT face=Calibri>That silent rides the mountains high.</FONT></P>]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 13 Mar 2008 07:01:09 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/03/13/The-Cry-1.html</link></item><item><title>Happy Women's Day</title><description><![CDATA[<A href="http://bp1.blogger.com/_i43HhsZUM2g/R9ID1e8ItzI/AAAAAAAAACQ/Q1EWny35QDQ/s1600-h/the+world+in+my+hand.JPG"><IMG id=BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5175203139175364402 style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://bp1.blogger.com/_i43HhsZUM2g/R9ID1e8ItzI/AAAAAAAAACQ/Q1EWny35QDQ/s320/the+world+in+my+hand.JPG" border=0></A><BR><BR><BR>Happy Women's Day to all those brave women out there taking life head on one day at a time:<BR><BR>The career woman trying to shatter her way through a glass ceiling. <BR><BR>The construction worker carrying bricks to build somebody's concrete ceiling. <BR><BR>The impoverished woman working her butt off to put food into her children's mouth. <BR><BR>The struggling woman hiding money from a drunkard of a husband. <BR><BR>The terrified young bride cowering before an abusive husband.<BR><BR>The woman in uniform facing enemy and domestic fire.<BR><BR>The woman seeking adventure living life on the edge. <BR><BR>The homemaker keeping down the rising nausea of ennui.<BR><BR>The beautiful young thing in a crowded bus combating wandering hands with safety pins.<BR><BR>The smart young thing in an air-conditioned office battling to outwit the wolfish boss.<BR><BR>The poor young thing out on her own fighting to keep off the pawing supervisor.<BR><BR>The old woman yearning for a visit from her children.<BR><BR>The young mother to be in the overwhelming thrill of her first contraction.<BR><BR>The helpless woman staying awake at a sick child's bedside.<BR><BR>To every day that we successfully face the world.<BR><BR>To every woman who needs to works twice as hard.<BR><BR>To You and to Me, to all of Us,<BR>Who hold the World in Our hands,<BR><BR>Happy Women's Day!]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 08 Mar 2008 08:44:45 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/03/08/Happy-Women-s-Day-1.html</link></item><item><title>Date with Destiny</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt" align=justify><FONT face=Calibri size=4>"Kanden Kaaliyai," that was all he said. But in those two words was a sense of longing which was 35 years in the fulfilling. A hunger he had carried in his heart since he was 15, the longing to see his ishtadeivam, Kali, and not just any Kali mind you, but Sri Ramakrishna's Kali, the Mother at <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Dakshineshwar, She who had inspired him and set him off on a proud spiritual quest. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt" align=justify><FONT face=Calibri size=4>Though he had travelled all the way to the other side of the world, a trip to Kolkata never seemed to materialize. He covered all the metros. Mumbai, Chennai, Delhi . why he had even made the Kailash Manasarovar Yatra, but Kali's city somehow eluded him. Finally when his sister and family made the trip and brought back Kali's Prasad for him, he could take it no longer. He had decided once and for all that he was going to make it, he was going to rendezvous with the Terrible One within a year, and he did. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt" align=justify><FONT face=Calibri size=4>And finally when he did set his eyes on Her, surely he closed them in bliss. A tumult of emotions that welled up within surely flowed down his eyes unabashedly; tears of pure unadulterated joy, of a longing finally fulfilled. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt" align=justify><FONT face=Calibri size=4>And at last when he was tranquil enough to let his little sister know that he had seen Her, he knew that no words could fully express the magnitude of what he had experienced. So he resorted to one of Tamil's greatest poets, a wizard of words who long before Shakespeare proved that brevity is the soul of wit. Kambar, who spoke volumes in the two words that fell out of Hanuman's mouth when He returned to Rama after his successful quest to find Sita. "Kanden Sitaiyai," was all He said. But He conveyed a world of meaning in those two words. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 10pt" align=justify><FONT face=Calibri size=4>And so, he borrowed the words of his sister's ishtadeivam to tell her that he had finally succeeded in his quest. After all, she was the only one in the family who could really appreciate the fine nuances, the power, and the significance of those two words," Kanden Kaliyai".</FONT></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home7/569/4e3afbbed5d63b89902f55377124a4e4/homep/images/1202763605">]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 12 Feb 2008 02:26:29 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/02/12/Date-with-Destiny.html</link></item><item><title>Another Diwali, Far From Home</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>I love Diwali. It is the only festival in our parts that sanctions non-vegetarian food. Dunno what the story behind that is, but whatever it is I have no complaints. Every other festival calls for an over dose of sathvik food. And a couple of days before the onset of the veggie festivals itself I go into pangs of anxiety. 'Green Anxiety' -a sudden and inexplicable need to stuff my face with anything which once had legs/fins/shells/or got laid (ummm you know what I mean; so minds out of the gutter please). I simply go pure non-veg in preparation for (sometimes just a day of) the vegetarian ordeal ahead. I get almost panicky, and stay up till midnight to have my last omelet at 11.59 pm. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Diwali lets you go tamasik. I really don't know if that is a Tam tradition on a Mallu one. Anyway, its one of the best features of living in a mixed culture like that of Kanyakumari district. See, like I said once, the best of both worlds. In Kerala, Diwali is not at all a big thing. Just a bursting of crackers, And often even that goes by with just a whimper. Mallus are big on crackers during Vishu, or so I understand. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>Anyway back to Diwali, and this time too as usual, I was tempted with e-mails and now scraps on orkut too, from the folks back home, all about the awesome mutton curry my sis-in-law made or the delectable chicken biriyani my sis made.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Yea that's de rigueur, mutton curry and dosa for breakfast and chicken for lunch, either fried or as biriyani. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>And then the diwali palahaarams. The sweets and the savories. Parippu vada is a must for us. The rest can follow as the case may be. Stuff that everyone made, -the friends and neighbours- would come pouring in. and it is sweet indulgence indeed to sit with family and a cup of chaya around the dining table, comparing the merits of my mom's vada against my aunt's or the silkiness of our kesari against that of our neighbor's or how so-and-so's unniyappam could have been just a li'l bit softer. And two days after diwali all the parippu vadas mysteriously reappear as rasa vadas. I love the parippu vadas just for that, in anticipation of the rasavadas that are to follow. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>This year round, our family seems to have had a standard menu when it came to the palahaarams. Whether it's the Nagercoil/Trivandrum/Bangalore/Vishakhapatnam or the US branch, everyone went for unniyappams and parippuvada. The more enterprising ones (read everyone other than me) made more stuff like seven cups and kesari and diamond cuts etc. I made unniyappams for the first time this year. I went ahead with it since every time my mom or sis-in-law made it at home, it would come out perfect, soft and 'poo pole' (soft as a flower, so to say) and would stay so for days, unless it got over by then. It's this foolproof recipe that we got from a neighbor, which uses just rava, jaggery and ghee. It simply cannot go wrong, something like 'Unniyappam for Dummies'. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>Well I proved them all wrong. I have this unique talent for making the most 'fail-safe' recipe fail. If a recipe can be messed up, rest assured I shall do it. Even if it cannot be, leave it to me, I'll find a way. So my unniyappams turned out rock-hard. Mind you, they were tasty, once you managed to break through the crust without damage to your teeth. </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>They reminded me of the 'eripadakkams' or 'throw crackers' back home. You know the ones you hurled hard on the ground and they went boom. Those were my favorite kind of crackers and I miss them so. And maybe that is why I unconsciously made my unniyappams turn out like them. Ahhhhhhhh that's it. That's why they failed, I didn't actually mess up. It was my sub-conscious effort to psychologically reconnect with my cherished childhood and indulge in comforting, warm, fuzzy, nostalgia to counter the debilitating effects of being far from home on a much loved festival. (phew!) </FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 2.5in"><FONT face=Arial>So folks, Happy Diwali or like we say it, Deepavali! Yeah yeah, I know I am late. I was too busy indulging in my favorite pastime  nostalgia of course!</FONT></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home7/569/4e3afbbed5d63b89902f55377124a4e4/homep/images/1194873920">]]></description><pubDate>Mon, 12 Nov 2007 18:20:55 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/11/12/Another-Diwali-Far-From.html</link></item><item><title>The Grand Old Man in the Closet</title><description><![CDATA[<P> </P><P>Yup, he's out. Chief Warlock of the Wizengamot and Supreme Mugwump of the International Confederation of Wizards, better known as the dearly departed Headmaster of Hogwarts, Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore is gay. <BR>His creator JK Rowling pushed him out of the closet just last week while answering questions at Carnegie Hall. Well, that was a bolt out of the blue.</P><P>Yes, he was pushed out, he did not come out on his own. What I do not understand is why Jo had to do it. What points was she trying to score? Of course, she has always been awfully PC right from the start. She has been very careful to show no discrimination based on race, religion, sex, gender, class, financial condition or intelligence. But she always steered clear of sexual orientation, to an extent that all teachers at Hogwarts were portrayed as almost asexual. Maybe this was because the books primarily started off as children's books, before they became darker and more serious, as the series progressed. </P><P>Except for the late revelation about the ill fated love of Prof.Severus Snape, we know nothing about the love lives of the rest of the teachers at Hogwarts. No mention about spouses or children or families. Many did speculate if the kindly Headmaster with his twinkling blue eyes and joi de vivre and his stern, strict but warm hearted deputy Prof. Minerva Mc Gonagall had something going on. A case of opposites attracting. Apparantly not.</P><P>What we now know is that Dumbledore desired a man, a dark sorcerer no less, Jo's Hitler - Grindelwald. But once they separated ways, what did he do? Did he not want to seek love after that?</P><P>So coming back to the revelation, why did Jo do this now? Was she trying to score points with the homosexual community? Wasn't it a bit late for that? If she did, she should have said so in at least one of the seven books- atleast the last one where she brought this much loved, character a notch or two down, and revelaed to us his feet of clay. When she showed us that Dumbledore was only human, she could have revealed this too. </P><P>And more importantly, if she wanted to show that she had no sexual prejudices, the fact should have come from the man himself. Since he kept it a secret, does it mean he was ashamed of it? So how does that make her look? </P><P>Frankly speaking, though I have nothing against anyone's sexual preference, I feel that this was totally unnecessary. At this point anyway. The man is dead and buried/cremated/whatever, His tomb has already been plundered. Voldy's gone forever and everyone has got on with their lives. And most of us have come to terms with his humanity. Why dig up this new controversy now?</P><P> Jo, leave him alone. Just let his weary old bones rest in peace, atleast hereafter. </P><P><BR> </P>]]></description><pubDate>Mon, 29 Oct 2007 21:54:00 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/10/29/The-Grand-Old-Man-in-the.html</link></item><item><title>Matters of Faith and Other Such Things</title><description><![CDATA[<P align=justify><FONT size=4>Go on, make your own statement. Never mind that it might hurt the sentiments of a billion plus people. After all, they are the punching bags. When they believe, it is superstition, when others believe, it is faith. When they protest it is stoking communal flames, when others protest, they are fighting for minority rights. <BR><BR>Where are you oh breastbeaters! The harpies and bleeding hearts who cannot bear a pinprick against humanity? Oops my mistake. Their hearts do not bleed or their voices shrill for everyone. Hmm, they do not even consider you human. What was I even thinking of? Like the emotions of a billion plus even matter! <BR><BR>And all you billion plus out there, followers of the most ancient faith in the world, pray while you can. 'Your' government by tomorrow probably would have outlawed your favorite gods and made praying to them illegal. After all what proof do you have of their existence? <BR><BR>All you have to show is millennia of unwavering faith that stood the test of time and sword. Or maybe you have a few paltry epics and songs composed as manifestations of purest bhakthi, in moments of Supreme Oneness. All your Thyagaraja Swamis and Tulsidases and Meerabhais and Chaithanya Mahaprabhus were probably hallucinating. Hah! Just psychological bull.<BR><BR>As for your countless gods, did you know they are being stretched out on Freudian couches and 'erudite' papers are being published about them. Go read them for your daily fix of the most absurd and most outrageous interpretations ever.<BR><BR>After all, what 'scientific proof', what hard proof do you have to explain your beliefs? Never mind that you follow the most scientific of faiths or that your faith has been the only one that has allowed scientific enquiry. <BR><BR>And while you are at it, don't you dare question the beliefs of others. I could come up with a bunch of them, but my faith, which inculcates in me a basic respect for all faiths, prevents me from making such mindless statements.<BR><BR>Around the world, even the mighty tread carefully when it comes to matters of faith. Even the most innocuous details are handled with respect. Because when it comes to faith, it is a matter beyond question, beyond political statements, often beyond rational justifications, beyond government interference. <BR><BR>But over here, anyone can have a go. It's a free for all. After all, who care about you? Even you do not. It is those among you that make such statements. Why else would you elect your spineless and senseless leaders? Fall at their 'worthy' feet, why lick their boots if it so pleases you, carry them on your heads and beg them to debase you. You deserve those who rule over you.<BR><BR>Meanwhile I have only one thing to tell the UPA government: "Koththi koththi muraththil keri koththatheda makane."</FONT></P><P align=justify><FONT size=4></FONT> </P><P align=justify><FONT size=4>P.S. hate mail expected. do drop in a line.</FONT></P>]]></description><pubDate>Thu, 13 Sep 2007 16:48:09 +0530</pubDate><link>http://sowparnika.rediffiland.com/blogs/2007/09/13/Matters-of-Faith-and-Other-Such.html</link></item></channel></rss>